[quote=oldtimer Of course he has no business having either the emotional affair he is currently having nor the looming physical affair. You indicate nowhere that he is either separated or planning a D. In what way is his M done? He IS cheating on his W already, he needs to stop.
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Brother is planning to end the M in the next three months, it's been a painful ongoing process to get there but that's the plan. You are right, OT. I'm sure he's been building this R with this woman, sharing his M issues etc. He certainly shouldn't be shocked when she takes a shot, he's been asking for it. And I do speak as one who did the same inappropriate thing when I was in his postion. He wants validation, to feel like a man again, feel some caring etc. But, I think he needs to take care of his home sitch and probably be alone for a while. But, I know that's practically impossible to tell someone who's got someone waiting in the wings. I am very leery of instant new R's, I think they are asking for trouble. But, what do I know!
