How do I get any respect or ANYTHING for that matter from her if I let her just keep calling all the shots and I roll over and take it without saying anything or standing up for myself ??!?!?
What specific actions have you taken to stand up for yourself? What boundaries have you clearly communicated and enforced? What steps have you taken to protect yourself legally and financially? What have you done to seperate your finances?
What is the real reason you got upset about the trashbags?
You should have already had her things packed when she crossed the boundary (living with another man).
Your wife is running as fast as she can and you keep doing the same things. Why?
Legally, we have the custody agreement, nothing more, no divorce since we were never married. We never had joint accounts, so nothing to do there either. I got upset about the trashbags because she just expected to be able to help herself to them without even bothering to ask and since my financial situation is so tight I need everything I pay for and cant afford to give it away. And on some level I suppose it was simply the presumption on her part that she was entitled to whatever she wanted to take.
Im NOT trying to keep doing the same things, honestly Im not. Im doing everything I can to let actions speak louder then words and SHOW her Im committed to being what she needs. But her walls are up so high right now nothing is getting thru or what does she resents as it took things getting to this level for me to realize it.
