So I have been going dark, have not had any contact with WH AT ALL since he left except for one email that asked him to let me know if he was going to stop by and another email about our bank accounts and then I saw him at the wedding and that has been absolutely all contact since he left.
I have confirmed (SURPRISE!) that he posted ANOTHER ad on craigslists looking for an "older woman" to fulfill his fantasy. So he is clearly not stopping his behavior. I've gotten better over the past two weeks with not obsessing so much over everything although its still hard sometimes.
My parents and 3 close friends knew about the seperation from day one but over the weekend I told my aunt, uncles and grandparents. Everyone is supportive. I told another friend (because I needed to ask if she could watch my dog). I'm not announcing it over email or anything but I figure that as I see more friends WH will come up (How is WH?) and that's when I'll let them know.
My parents, his parents, my grandmother and one of my friends now know about his sex addiction. I didn't raelly want to tell my grandmother but she is very judgemental and I felt like she was judging me when I told her about the seperation so I just ended up telling her the things he has been doing.
I will have to see WH on Monday for a reunion meeting we are having (two other people will be there).
I also find it interesting that I don't think WH has told his friends about seperation. When I emailed my friend (mutual friend of ours) to ask her about watching the dog I said "I don't know if you have heard but WH and I are seperated." and then I went into about wathcing the dog. When she emailed me back she said "Friend1 mentioned to us that WH had been sleeping over at his house a couple nights a week so we thought there might be problems" This means that WH didn't even tell Friend1 that we were seperated! It just baffles my mind that he left me and is so set on divorce but still hasn't told people flat out that we are seperated!
I'm curioius about what is going to happen when the reunion comes up. WH have been together for a very long time (we went to high school together). My plan at the reunion is just to not really talk about my marriage or WH but if someone asks I will say I'm seperated. I don't want to do this whole "pretending" thing like he wanted to do the wedding a few weeks ago.
