Chapter 28 - Emergencies and winnings

[newmama]

Hi, TMW!

I know you don't know me but I saw your thread and was curious so I read it all.

Just wanted to say that I understand how it is hard to break off a relationship with someone you love and have been with for so long, even if it is unhealthy. It looks like you are trying to end it, right?

Now don't think of this time as wasted...you weren't really ready to get married and have kids so soon after your divorce, right? It just really looks like this was a relationship you had to help you heal from your divorce, like a "blankie" or some other comfort. And even the crappy relationships help us learn what we "don't want."

Hey, imagine if you had married this guy- instead of breaking up, it would be another divorce! Aren't you so glad you didn't marry him? Imagine if you had kids with him--then you would have to see him forever! (I love my stbxh but it is so painful every time I have to see him when exchanging my S, let alone having to give him my S!)

For what it's worth, I believe you will be able to break up with him...it looks like a journey of one step forward, 2 steps back, and now 1 step forward, 1 step back...