So far this morning I haven't cried (good), but I am shaking - an unanticipated problem. I don't want to go into court trembling.
I played golf last night. I'm a super beginner, but I love it. That was a good way to quiet my brain.
Now this morning I have to get to thinking and doing. I need to pack for my little trip. Also need to mapquest because I haven't been there since last year. Maybe will do a yoga DVD to stop the shakes. And clean out the fridge, as my mom is watching the dogs tonight and she'll need to be able to find dinner!
I also need to think about my attitude when I go in there. There's no point in being sullen, but I'm sure not going to try to act happy. I guess I'll just be all business.
Thanks to everybody for your posts. They're helping enormously with my PMA!!
Mrs. A, I am getting caught up. Good idea to play golf- I am a super beginner as well- but it requires intense concentration so there's no room to think about much else!
I think you should act all business today but if you DO get choked up, it won't hurt Mr. A to see that (not that you would do that on purpose).
(((HUGS))) Mrs. A. And Mr. A's L sounds like a jerk! Desensitized to divorce...
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
It got postponed until 7/28 because we didn't have our settlement agreement done. So I'm still married to Mr. A. But you were totally right, Gardner, it was ALL BUSINESS. He was completely emotionally blocked.
So I have a lot to process tonight. Good thing I'll be doing it on Lake Michigan. There's nothing like a huge body of water to give a person perspective!
It got postponed until 7/28 because we didn't have our settlement agreement done. So I'm still married to Mr. A. But you were totally right, Gardner, it was ALL BUSINESS. He was completely emotionally blocked.
So I have a lot to process tonight. Good thing I'll be doing it on Lake Michigan. There's nothing like a huge body of water to give a person perspective!
I know exactly how you feel. I'm the same way. Go to the shore of Long Island Sound often, about five miles away from here (Southern Connecticut).
When I'm particularly pensive, I need to drive the hour or so to Southern Long Island itself and immerse all my senses in the expanse of the Atlantic and all that ocean, sand, and sky.
You'll be fine. You be all business, too, and get it over, done with, and (the beginnings of) behind you.
All business doesn't have to mean cold and emotionless. Just stay on the factual level. And the your-best-interests-level.
FYI: (and others here may tell you the same) I was business-like at my divorce finale, relieved and quite calm. For the drive home, too. But I walked into the house and it all swept over me. Towel-sobbing time.
Peace,
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
It got postponed until 7/28 because we didn't have our settlement agreement done. So I'm still married to Mr. A. But you were totally right, Gardner, it was ALL BUSINESS. He was completely emotionally blocked.
So I have a lot to process tonight. Good thing I'll be doing it on Lake Michigan. There's nothing like a huge body of water to give a person perspective!
Sorry it was postponed and you have to go through another hearing, but on the flip side - at least now you know what to expect next time and hopefully that will make this just a bit easier. Enjoy your time up in Traverse City (why am I all of a sudden just a little bit jealous!)
Mrs. A--are you disappointed that it was postponed?
I hope your trip gives you strength in a reflective and re-energizing way.
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Whoa, it's good to be back! I'm looking forward to spending my whole night on these boards!
This is the first I've been alone since Wednesday, my big day with Mr. A. I asked my mom and sister to be here at the house when I got back from court, to which they kindly obliged.
Then my sister and I headed north to Lake Michigan while my mom stayed here at the house to watch my (formerly "our") two dogs.
We got back on Thursday night and both my mom and sister slept over. Then I went to work yesterday and my sister spent the night again last night, and now we've just finally parted ways. So it's just me and the dogs - and you guys!!
