OK here is my story

[Resilent]

I think you guys are right about that. Yesterday was a tramatic day. she called me and told me that she had talked to a lawyer. she stated that she told the laywer that I'm such a nice and good guy that she dosent want to hurt me and she wants to make this as fair as possable. One problem with that is her idea of fair is that she gets the house, kids and dogs. Shes kinda a WAW but she's not leaving. My response was that I planned on staying in the house with the kids and I might even need the new Mercury Mariner we just bought to replace the 17 year old pickup truck that I drive. She of course went crazy, crying yelling telling me I can't do that. Sure didn't seem that it ever occured to her that I might actually fight back. The odds of my actually getting the house and the kids would appear to be low. I could force the sale of the house but that would then involve my kids having to move and I don't think I can do that. I've spoken to my lawyer and he said that the first thing I need to do is get control of the finances. This morning I called payroll and stopped my direct deposit into our account. I'll be opening a new account and start paying our bills now. I hope that this is a major reality check for her. Sandi and PDT, you guys both seen very pessamistic about my sitch. She has mentioned a few times that reconcillation after our dvorce is not out of the question. I realize that I can't live with that hope in mind. Whatever happens I will continue to get a life, Keep improving myself, Strenthen my relationships with my kids. I won't plan on ever reconciling with her but at the same time i hate to completely close the door by making this a ugly hurtful divorce. I havent given up hope that this can be turned around but I don't see many options. I went to a MC when my wife was out of town and told her my wifes life story. The MC is eager to talk with her but of course my wife will not go.