I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[newmama]

Thanks for the recc, Whatnow. I WILL check it out when I feel like preparing for dating! I definitely need a manual for relationships!

For now I just want a break from reading self help/ relationship stuff other than the grief article I googled, lol!

I guess I am going to need to explain to stbxh that I am in pain and would appreciate the bare minimum when it comes to talking. I could use some help phrasing it...ideas?

You see again, last night in the parking lot he starts off "I've had such an incredibly hard, long day..." and I used to ask about it but of course I am not going to do that now! @$$hole! And he wants to be all nice and jokey with me. Give me my space!

I just said "we weren't waiting long." He tries to make other conversation about S. I say "he's doing fine. Ok see you tomorrow."

Then this morning, I take the overnight bag from him so he can't walk over to the laundry room and put the clothes there (I don't know why but he has always done this--he doesn't need to take the clothes out! wth?). When I take the bag he made that noise he does when he is uncomfortable. Next, he lights up and tells me his new cell phone is arriving today and he used the address at the house, but I need to sign for it. I quickly ask
"now when are you moving again?" because change your flippin address already! He sees I am not interested in talking about his phone and am not that pleased about needing to sign for it. I say "I should be here." then "Ok, bye."

So my point is he wants me as a friend. He doesn't have too many other than OW and he cut off his friends once he started his A. I strangely feel a little bad for him but luckily my mental health isn't that messed up where I am giving him my friendship while he is divorcing me. No more DBing, only self preservation at this time. So I can feel a little bad but not enough to sacrifice my needs.

Maybe I can just email him. I wish I didn't have to say anything. Is his "EQ" truly so low that he DOESN'T GET the magnitude of what he is doing to me? How can he be so dense? I am just baffled.