I mean you represent him being a man - independent, a equal in a relationship, accepted, able to relax, he could please you without the guilt trip. make sense?
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i just gave him a warm smile and told him not to think too much.
Not good. Men think all the time, it's how we solve problems. That would be a put down from my perpsective. See how a comment like that makes him feel like the "emotional" lead? The see-saw analogy. He doesn't want to be responsible for more feelings.
The paradox - you become the WAS and he "gets it." You have a much better M. You become the WAS and he stays stuck - you keep walking to a better place for you. Not all in your control.
It's very loving for you to become the WAS, let him think about what he is giving up and why. Let him deal with his issues and grow. Lovingly detach.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
