W is on a trip to see an old girlfriend. Talked to her yesterday and she said the trip was a great idea. Got an email this AM in which she tells me she cannot forgive my 5 year old PA, and is obsessed by it. As if nothing else matters. DDay had told me that she needs to vent her pain, and that I understand. Neither her recent EA/PA nor my old PA are the root cause, they are just symptoms. I need to help her get over her obsession and focus on establishing a new, forward moving relationship. If only I knew how....
I have been told to expect bad days and backwards steps. I assume I can do nothing but support her and be strong and confident in our future. Am I right about this?
H 51, W 46 no kids T 22 years M 17 years ILBNILWY 2/10 1st D talk 6/10 partial recovery W files D 5/11 long distance separation 8/11 moving forward on D 10/11 legal separation complete 1/2012
