I spoke with my brother last night, he's got the M from hell therefore we have a lot in common! His wife has cheated on him and that's about the most normal thing she's done! As a professional in the mental health field I will just state "she has some serious issues". Anyway, my brother has been very friendly with a lady at work, they confide in each other and ...you know where this is going, don't you! Well, last night she suggested they go back to her place and do the wild thing. Brother said NO. He called me because he was feeling like a jerk who should have gone. I said "you did the right thing, you're involved in a present R as sh!tty a sitch as it is and until that is done you are not being fair to her or yourself" I further said "You're thinking about leaving and leaving is an emotionally difficult time, you do not need another situation to deal with while you're doing this" ..."If she is the woman you think she is she will understand that and give you the space you need"..."What about your son, would you want him to find out that Dad is banging another woman behind his mom's back, regardless of what W is doing. You're an honourable man, keep it that way". Do I ever know what it feels like to share time and confidences with an amazing woman at the wrong time! I told brother "you feel like a man, you're being validated and that's pretty powerful stuff when you've been living with squat for years but don't let you're hormones do your thinking" He told me he was relieved to hear me say these things because he really liked this person and wished he'd met her years ago but he told her this was not the time, it would be unfair to everyone involved. I said "see you are a honourable man!" He said "Yes, but it would have been so nice to mess up my life all by myself, for years wife has been doing it for me!" LOL Did I give him good advice? I know a lot of people would have said "do her, your M is done, you deserve a little love" but, for some reason, my family has raised men who believe in doing what's right...and how that sucks sometimes!
