I wanted you to answer the questions for a couple reasons..
One-I wanted you to really dig deep and think about the you that you want to be. Whether or not it is with him, it doesn't really matter.
What you may realize is, that is the you ,that is on display for the world to see.
What that was ....was a personality characteristic within you...
The remorse after, was your character. That is who you are inside when nobody is watching....your core belief.
Two- you recognized a trigger within you, a button that he can push that will turn you into the person he needs you to be , so that he can justify what he is doing....
Remove that-----QUICKLY, before he pushes it again.
With recognizing that trigger, you have also defined who you want to be, and one of the things that you want to do differently.
Don't like the Bitch-Switch within ?
Kill it.
Try to hold these three words in your head during your interactions...
Dignity, Honor, and Grace...
They have worked well for my friend Brooklyn ( BTW, nickel )
Sometimes, one has to be the change that they want to see...
Soon, you will find yourself asking the same questions I asked you, BEFORE you respond.