We were supposed to be reflecting on the problems that both of us brought to the marriage and ideas to rebuild the marriage if we decide to reconcile at the end of the trial separation. Of course there were other conditions like no dating or sex during the trial separation period. I put in a stipulation that the agreement would be in effect for a set time period or until one of the parties seeks D.
Last month after I told her Dad about OM, she was absolutely livid and told me we were done...that's when WW bought "The Good Divorce" but after a couple days WW came back down to earth.
WW is not used to me sticking up for myself and I think that she is realizing that she no longer has control over me or what I do and that is driving her anger.
PDT - I know that I should have ended the TM session with WW earlier. But I've always believed that when someone is seething with rage and lobbing insults, the best thing to do is remain calm and not sling mud back. So what I was trying to do was show her love (not romantic love) in the midst of the storm. Because I'm sure she expected me to throw insults and personal jabs back at her.
Still wearing my wedding ring!
I'll look in the newcomers forum on going dark...
Last edited by loweinsd51; 06/23/1001:44 PM.
M-43 FWW-42 T 20 M 16 DD10 DD8 EA: 1/10 Informal separation: 6/11/2010 Headed for D: 7/6/2010 Piecing? 9/10/10
