Completely Blindsided

[Piano]

Ok, just read your thread from start to finish.

You are getting some wonderful advice from Fullmoon, and TimeHeals and some early posts from Sandi2. You probably don't see it, becuase I know on the inside it's killing you, but after those initial 'needy' backslides, you learnt very quickly how to act "as if" with your WAW. I'm 3 or 4 months ahead of you (in terms of Bomb/commencement of DBing), and yet am just as many months behind you on implementing the techniques that the vets say Work!

Oh, and sorry my first post to you overemphasised a possible OM. It doesn't sound like there is one here, although she's clearly acting 'single' right now.

You are doing a good job of occupying your time and setting yourself new challanges and goals. Especially since you just landed and haven't been in your town for some years. Keep GALing, but just be careful not to exhaust yourself! Your life sounds hectic.

I was a dancer (not professional) and am always doing some class or another too. (Well, I was until I got pregnant). It's a great way to focus the mind & get all those positive endorphins!

My WH also dropped the bomb on me when I came back here to set things up for us & is currently making moves to head back o/seas to be with OW. Unfortunately we have a newborn baby thrown into the mix, but nontheless, we feel the same pain & of course share the tyranny of distance issues. I also feel like half of my life has been cut off - many best friends and half my family are now 17,000 kms away from me. This was a big part of my initial distress. The whole 'dropped on the other side of the planet' thing.

I'm also back at my parents as I can't afford the mortgage on our apartment here right now & so they can help me with the baby. And I'm 35 ! Yeah,dead sexy! (And try GALing with a newborn.)

You said in one of your posts that you would not be in your city for longer than 6 months. Care to elaborate?

Also, I see your W is 25. This is pretty young. Maybe she's living the "teenage years" she never had or something? Did she go from living with her parents to living with you? I ask you this because a friend of mine flipped out at about the same age, moved out of her flat where she lived with her long-term partner because she needed to "prove" to herself that she could live by herself and "do it alone". Her boyfriend gave her this freedom (he was damned stressed and thought he was losing her at the time, mind), and a year later she came back. A few years down the track, they are married and she's about to have a baby...

Could be off track with that.. just thoughts!