then I would say that maybe him calling and talking to me indicates that maybe he needed someone to talk to. So I believe this is now the perfect time for me to go dark.
Be careful here Irish.
Being sensitive to his pain and it causing you pain is a razor's edge. You don't want to end up the brunt of it.
I would more descibe it as understanding that he is in pain and that is what is driving his behavior.
Undertsanding that there is really no way of knowing what is going on in his head. Why he is doing this.
You have no knowledge of this and you don't want it.
You are looking for answers.
Answers about you? From H?
Understanding will help you deal with the maelstrom of emotions and crazy MLCness that gets thrown your way.
When you detach and go on this journey we gain a new understanding of this.
Sooooo...
Going dark? This I believe should be done to protect YOU.
NOT as a tactic to punish or manipulate your H.
Think about why you decided to do this.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
