She says she will do anything to save the M? OK. Here's what Coach did when I made noise like that during our separation. He did nothing but ask me what I was going to do to salvage it. I think someone on here suggested to him that I do all the "heavy lifting" and that's the path he took. He didn't ask me out to discuss it - he made me invite myself. And when we talked about it, it was all about what I was going to do going forward. He in no way presented himself as blameless, but that ground was already being covered by him (180s, he had apologized earlier for mistakes). And when said I would contact my L, stop the D, move back home, get "all in"... nothing changed for him until I ACTUALLY DID IT. There was no infidelity, but I imagine if there had been, he would have insisted on a transparency plan (ala Puppy).
My point is --- do NOT jump right in and rescue her now. MAKE HER DO THE WORK TO PATCH IT UP. Don't be an a$$...just don't SAVE her from the mess she made.
And don't take that key logger off. You need to trust but verify. You need to be sure this whole Save The Marriage deal didn't come on b/c the OM was cooling off on her.
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Me45 H46 T25 M22 S21 & 19 D13 Separated and filed 8/08 Moved home 11/08
