I am just going to say it because you really need to hear this.
Let go of your FEAR.
As FDR said, "There is nothing to fear but fear itself".
You cannot control her or her choices, but you can protect yourself and your family, and you can choose to face your fears, become stronger and more empathetic, and then let the fears go.
If she chooses her X, then so what?
I wouldn't finance her affair by paying for anything without the court ordering it. Why? Because I am not afraid of losing her like you are... even though she's pretty much gone already.
Bolded by me. Your absolutely RIGHT, I AM afraid, because our kids deserve to have their parents and family intact!! Not to be a smart ass, but I noticed you dont have kids with your EX, and that changes the dynamic, at least to me it does.
