BTW - the kids left for their mom's today. They are all so fed up with H's actions towards them - or should I say abandonment of them. He's been around only occasionally since this all began. I've really done a lot of stepping things up to help cover both "positions" of parents. It's exhausting. I feel for those single moms out there.
H seemed genuinely sad to see them go, though. He's extremely tired. It was a 6 am flight, so we were up at 2:30 to get ready to get there. I drove them in his new car, had to buy gas, give them spending money, buy breakfast, snacks for the plane, and pay the tolls. H just doesn't think of these things. I literally on the way home had my heart stop. I haven't driven his car for so long, I forgot that he always runs on empty. I was about 1/8 of a tank past E. Lucky the reserve tank is bigger than on most cars.
Well, now H can spend all his time with OW and I can get moving forward with my life. No more worries about how the kids are taking it.
H was so drunk last night that he pulled out his secret phone in front of the kids. DSD took a picture of it to show me, because we had a running joke about it. H really thinks he's hidden all of this from them. He has no idea how his abandonment of them has affected them... I really think he believes he's been a good dad to them lately. They were just SO glad to get away from him and his antics so they can just be themselves again. And their mom's house is crazy, so for them to want to go there instead, with a stepdad who used to abuse them... that's saying something.
