Scwred up and need advice

[CPCajun]

Well I was served D papers yesterday. I was a good stab with a dull knife to my stomach. My wife had already left to a business event so she was not around to confront. I call her and told her that "I do not want a divorce, I cannot control what you want, but I have made a vow to you to be by your side, for better and worse. At this time we will be going through the worse part. I hope that we can come together again instead of moving our separate ways."

Looking through the papers, I see one of the friends she is hanging around lately, has her signature on it as a witness to our marital problems. I told my wife, "That I prefer that she(friend) say stay out of our business. You have may talked to her about this, but only knows your side of the story. I am not saying that I am not at fault, but she has only heard half the information given. I am not saying do to talk to her if you need someone to talk to, but please discuss this between you and I."

Since I have been served, I still want to work this out. I will get a L to protect myself, but I do not want to be too hard as to just drive her away. I see it I should do what I have to do. She will get mad anyways but will know I am serious and is willing to move forward with this with or without her.I recently signed on to FB as a GAL to meet old friends and to talk. I see my wife had already blocked me. I m not saying there is OM, but need to cover all avenues. I installed a keylogger to the main PC in the home. I would need to install one on her laptop as she uses it than the PC The only other thing is the iphone, she does almost everything on there and have no way to monitor it. One I do not want this to turn into a control or trust issue. Two I cant sneak into the house and check the phone. Am I wrong for trying to do this as a precautionary measure? Like I said i don't think there is OM, but she IS being given wrong information by her friend.

Sorry for the rambling, but I just can't get to sleep tonight and I will be a distracted at work later with this.


Thoughts...Sandi I really appreciate your advice as it seems to be dead on on what is going on here.