His answer... you know all the answers. You should write a book on love, you think you know everything! You have it all figured out!
Okay this is useful. Your WH is letting you know that all your words are just rolling off him. In one ear and out the other!, as they say.
My feeling, again, is pull away from him and stop speaking and using words. Man, I've been there so please don't mind the 2x4. Words don't work! Especially lots of them.
Do what works. Avoid words (although occassional 'truth darts' might be useful) and make him FEEL what it's going to be like as a divorced dad.
And my suggestion quick smart would be to let him know (on email so you control yourself, and a very short email at that) that you won't be needing him to stay with you post the birth at your house. I'm sorry BD, I know it's your sitch and all and you have to make the decision yourself, but I really don't think you should let him do that. You are going to be SO emotional 40 days past the birth (and beyond), you do not need his drama in your face 24hrs a day. And what are you going to do if he picks up and leaves 2 or 4 weeks into it?? Like NM's husband? You'll be devastated all over again. You do not need that when you have a newborn in your arms.
Healthy boundaries are there to protect you and your wellbeing & therefore that of your baby.
I am going to be honest with you. I don't think your H is going to come back because you let him stay with you. He will come back - IF he comes back - when he realises what he is about to miss out on.
The only way to let him know that is via feeling it.
Which means... make him miss you and the baby. Just my 2 bobs worth!
Me 36; H 40 baby born in May M:13, T:15 Bomb (OW): Dec 09 began DBing: Feb WH overseas with OW old: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2027369#Post2027369
