Wife abandoned me...Now What?

[Mike.4545]

Her first time with the counselor was devoted, I think, primarily to explaining herself and our situation to him from her point of view. I don't think it was really enough time for her to extract a lot of advice from him...and I think she realizes that now. I think her primary reason for going again would be to focus on her and her feelings...to see if he can help her make sense of it. Right now...she's basically going to the counselor for herself...not for "us." Obviously I want us both to be going together...but for now, I think I need to just be happy that she's at least going and seeking help.

From the onset of this whole deal, everything has happened very fast so I haven't had a lot of time to show her tons of positive changes. That being said, I did take every opportunity to show positive actions and she said she noticed and appreciated everything I was doing. That's good I guess.

At this point, I realize I need to take the advice from all the kind, and more knowledgeable members here like yourself Sandi. I need to put my faith in this advice and constantly do what I can to commit to not pursuing her any further...because I know this advice is being given for a reason.

Quick question though. If she emails/calls/texts...whatever...Should I answer back or ignore her attempts to communicate with me? If I do respond to anything she says, I will just be friendly, but business like as well...with no I love you's or any of that mushy talk...but should I even be responding at all?

Thank you again so very much for your advice! It really helps me get through a lot of this. =O)