I understand and I do need to detach. Yes, we have been separated for two years, but he has only been without the OW since last fall. It started when he left two years ago. For the record, H doesn't have access to a computer, so I know he isn't on these boards. He does, however, have a copy of DB. I doubt he has read it though.

I just remembered something H gave me for Christmas last year. It was a list of what love means to him. Things like holding hands, texting just to say thinking of you or love you, going for long walks, etc.

I think that's where the texting back and forth started. We joke, say funny out-of-the-blue things, etc. We have exchanged serious comments as well, although in the last several months I have been avoiding all R talk. Have kept things light and pressure-free. Trying to DB, you know. wink


Me - Faithful wife
H - WAH
Bomb: Fall/2009 - PA/EA with OW for 1 year
Both in our early 40's
M - 16 years w/ no kids
T - 21 years
Separated since July of 2008 - H living with his mother