Heartbroken and needing help!

[irishblessings]

OK - so tomorrow I start over and go dark. Interesting thing happened - H calls to make plans for S and him to do something tomorrow. I take the opportunity to apologize to him for mishandling myself. He then says - "I'm just trying to move on - trying to move forward - whatever that looks like. I know it's not easy on anyone and I apologize for that." I offered to him that if he wanted to set up a schedule of when he wanted to be with our S and that I would make sure I was out of the way to allow him some private time. He said "ok I'll think about that." He is still struggling to find housing and is spending more money than he wants to. I told him that S and I would be out of town Sunday through Thursday and that he could stay at the house and he said that he appreciated that and would let me know. He asked if we could be amicable now - and I said that I had a lot of work to do but that I wanted that.
So what do I think about this conversation - given my "new" perspective. First of all, he called and spent 27 minutes talking to me on the day after I basically humiliated him. If the new me is trying to be more sensitive to his pain - then I would say that maybe him calling and talking to me indicates that maybe he needed someone to talk to. So I believe this is now the perfect time for me to go dark. I have to take this painful journey to see what is left of me. Cat - your guidance has been so incredibly on target / it's now time for me to soul search.
Will keep you updated on the journey! Thanks to all for helping me through this most painful time!