She Say's She Want's Out Of The Marriage

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Steve I agree with the things you've said. I have no issue with any of it. But I didn't really 'get it' until it was too late.(whatever that means)

I'm sure you would agree with this - if we could give everyone a pill that would immediately detach them completely emotionally and mentally from their sitch there would be a much larger success ratio.

The problem I see is that I had to go through what I went through to get to the point I needed to be at when I walked in here..lol. A giant catch 22.

But like Mike from Tennessee used to say - it's not about the marriage, it's about saving yourself.

And I do agree with you on the statements you made on how unattractive it is to watch the person you lost interest in unravel and become even less attractive.

But it begs the question - If my spouse gains 100 lbs, or is injured and paralyzed, or any other situation you can think of - well it cause me to 'lose interest' in them, but is that a green light to walk away?

I think the idea of marriage is now obsolete. It's more like... I do, until I change my mind. And that change in mind usually comes when the marriage hits the 'for worse' part. Who knows. Maybe there will be a day when no one gets married. Seems like it doesn't really mean much anymore.

My STBX went to court last Wed and got a Temp Order of Protection. I signed for it on Thurs and when I read it I was totally dumbfounded. She totally fabricated some events and lied about other things that can be easily checked with some phone/text msg subpoena's.

The funny thing is this, I don't care. It really cut out the last piece of me that was interested in her in some way. I can see now how desperate she is to get what she wants. She is now stooping to outright fabrication. Before it was only embellishment and exaggerating, but now it's down to outright lying.

I really feel sorry for her. It's a hell of a way to have to live and I wouldn't want to live 3 seconds in her skin.

tbart, detach. I would leave the 'friendly' [censored] out at the curb and start calling her on any sh#t she throws out there.

I have my sails full up, going with the wind and hugging anything that I see on the river on the way. I love my life, I love my kids, I love my family.

All the rest of life doesn't really mean anything when it comes right down to it.