The OW has been out of the picture since last fall. She will have nothing to do with him and there has been NC. I can't say how I know that, but I know it's true. She isn't the problem. She could have been anyone. It's only a guess, but H still probably carries a torch for her.

We rarely call each other. Neither of us likes to talk on the phone. We have always texted or gotten together in person. We used to email, but he now works in a place where they don't have email.

He didn't call or text me today and I didn't contact him, either.

Me - Faithful wife
H - WAH
Bomb: Fall/2009 - PA/EA with OW for 1 year
Both in our early 40's
M - 16 years w/ no kids
T - 21 years
Separated since July of 2008 - H living with his mother