I'm not worried about getting an L at this point. I do some legal-ish work and can navigate the process pretty well. (For better or for worse.)
Mr. A bolted. I mean, seriously. He may have been planning his escape for awhile, but he left unexpectedly, even to him.
I know this is the case because he took nothing with him, he had personal plans for the next week, he had to sneak back in and get necessities for living (which he hoped I wouldn't notice, but I did), etc.
We had a minor fight late in the evening and he said, I'm outta here. Never came back in any serious way.
I love Mr. A, but I'm pissed that he left that way and never seriously considered reconciliation. He's had every day since then to know that he'd be welcomed back, and he's chosen not to return.
On the other hand, I know that the way he left was probably the only way he thought he could leave! If we had "talked" about it, I would have convinced him to stay.
And therein lies the problem: I could talk Mr. A into *ANYTHING*, and often I did. I didn't dialogue, I steamrolled.
Well, I was quickly ready to change my approach when he left, but I guess it was too late. I didn't even recognize this as a problem between us until he was gone.
I'm working on the deep-seeded tendency in myself to convince others to do what I want. That's not cool. (But I *have* made a lot of progress!) In the meantime, I have to not be that way with Mr. A or anyone else, and I have to get through tomorrow!!!
