I'm back after a long break. Folks, life is very, very good!!
Ok, house will close Aug. 2. We still have not told the kids. I know, not good. That's coming very soon. And, I'm not looking forward to it. Not one bit.
The reason we haven't told them is b/c I agreed to go to a joint C session with her to "learn how to tell the kids." I already know how SHE is going to tell the kids. The C session just occurred yesterday. Was the only joint C session I have attended with stbxw. And it was uncomfortable.
We each saw C alone last week to prepare for yesterday's joint session. When I showed up, C said stbxw didn't tell her much about why she wanted the D nor did stbxw really want to talk about it. What?! Stbxw is the one who asked for this C session!!! So, when I went for my alone session, I laid it all out for her. C agreed that stbxw was being unfair by not telling my why she wanted a D.
And the best part - C tells me stbxw was concerned I would treat the jt C session as an attempt to reconcile. WHAT?! Uh, not to sound conceited, but women have been coming out of the wood work gladly to try to take what she doesn't want (and that's pretty cool). I explained I no longer wanted that. I followed up and sent stbxw a txt to tell her C mentioned this and if stbxw were concerned about this, she shouldn't - I was no longer interested in reconciliation. Stbxw (or I could call her the narcissist) responds that the C "must be mistaken" b/c stbxw didn't say that. Hmmmmm, that sounds familiar.
So, fast forward to joint C session. C tells stbxw flat out that stbxw's refusal to give me an explanation was unfair. Stbxw responds, almost indignantly, that she thought she had. Stbxw: "Well, maybe I painted with a broad brush. I mean I didn't go granular." WTF is this woman talking about, and who talks that way? Anyway, C asks if stbxw could handle it (HA! I already know the answer to that one!!), stbxw should write an explanation to me for why she wanted the D.
Wife signed a lease yesterday. Good for her. Can I help you move in early?! I'm done with her as a spouse and have been for a while.
I am looking for a place and will probably move out before she does.
I know there are still a few dark patches ahead. I know I can, and will, handle them. The progress since coming here is nothing short of miraculous!!
