So here's one out there for anyone who is reading and wants to weigh in.
My stbxw just threatened to use her L (and in her own words, to "spend thousands of dollars of our money") to prevent me from taking S2 with me and the other 2 boys on a camping trip this weekend.
I've been planning a trip for the past month. It's an easy one - drive to a flat, pine-wooded state park near us, pitch a tent near the car, and hang out for the weekend. I want to take all 3 boys because I think it will be fun for S2 to come along. There's no rivers or lakes near our campsite, no traffic since we are at the end of a dirt road, etc. A friend of mine is coming with me, so there will be 2 adults.
This evening, a month after I originally told her I was taking them, she said "I'm not comfortable with you taking him and I see no reason for him to go". When I replied that I disagreed and was going to be taking him, she threatened to go to her L to get her L to stop me.
As an aside, just what does she think the L is going to do?
When I brushed that off she escalated to "If anything happens, that's IT!"
That's what? if he get's hurt then you'll ... divorce me??
But this leaves me between a bit of a rock and a hard place.
Do I want him to come with us? Yes, I think he'd have a great time and be perfectly safe. Probably safer than he would be at home where there are cars, stairs, doors that slam, and pools to fall into.
Am I concerned that she will use this (Endangering him by taking him camping) as an argument in the custody case? YES!
Am I willing to leave him with her? Yes. In the grand scheme of things it's not this one weekend is not that big of a deal. I'm willing to be flexible, but...
Do I want to set a precedent that she can dictate what I can or can't do with the boys during my time with them? NO!
Do I want her to be able to argue during the coming custody battle that I don't really take care of ALL of the boys during my time with them, since I "ALWAYS leave him with her"? - NO!
It's kind of like whether or not to negotiate with a terrorist.
Anyway, I'm interested to hear what any of you think...
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
