Glad you have decided to go to court - I do think that is the best decision for you.
Thanks for reading my thread - haven't updated it in ages, but I've just really been in a state of sideways limbo for so long that it seems pointless at the moment. It has been a little over 2 years since my WAW delivered the bomb to me. We lived separately but together until Sep 2009 when she moved out - I refused to leave the marital property and the kids since I wasn't the one who cheated and wanted out of the divorce. She wasn't too thrilled about that, but I absolutely wasn't budging. Virginia requires 1 year of physical separation before you can petition for a divorce so we have about 3 more months to go before either one of us can file.
Since she has moved out we have been very amicable together (sometimes almost too nice until she quickly pulls back) and we co-parent extremely well. However after being without a partner for more than 2 years now, I am really wanting to move on, although admittedly I have not completely cut the rope. If she walked in tomorrow and said she wanted to work things out I would give it serious consideration, but at the same time I would be a little bit disappointed. I guess that means that I have detached at least part of the way.
I also lived in Michigan when growing up - went to U of M (Go Blue!) and will be traveling up to Kalamazoo in July for a visit.
DC is nice and it would be even better if my situation was different and it will be someday I'm just not sure with who yet.
