I really hate saying this but my ex will take the slightest weakness I show him and use it to his advantage. I believe in a situation like yours, you have no choice but to hit him hard with consequences. You have a right to feel safe and a right not to be abused. His behavior is totally out of line.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11