Mila posted this in Marked&Healed's thread in MLC:
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Maybe we had to separate to give us both time to find/re-find ourselves and to learn from this experience and get ready for the next chapter of our lives. Be it together or separate. I still feel that we will be together...eventually....but I'm not waiting for it....I'm living my life and I will let God surprise me.
In the mean time I will treat H with compassion and try to understand that he is only human and that he is also in pain and struggling and making mistakes but that he is doing his best and can't do any better while in MLC.
WOW, this is EXACTLY how I am feeling and am thinking it will be what helps me to finally accept the divorce and the fact he is moving in with OW "officially."
Frankly, if God has another plan, so be it. But I am not opposed to reuniting in the future if we are both single and he is truly remorseful and willing to heal himself.
And if me thinking this is due to "shock/disbelief" or "bargaining" who cares? It is comforting me now and I know I won't be stuck forever!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
