Thank you! I am feeling some better today, I'm not up to par yet but I hope to be soon. I have so much work to do & it is so hot & humid here. I hope when I feel better the humidity will be down, the yard needs mowing & the hedges need trimming. I guess they will just have to wait on me.
Glad you are starting to feel better. Let the lawn and hedges wait until you feel good enough to tackle them. They'll still be there when you get around to it.
Yes, they will wait on me!! I do feel much better tonight than I did last night. I still don't feel up to par but I'm better, just tired. I think it takes a little bit to get over it.
Well, I got out this past weekend & trimmed those darn hedges & mowed the yard, whew! Was it hot!!!! The heat index is really high around here but I made it. Took lots of breaks & drank lots of water. At least it's done for a little while now.
Journeling: I got another call from my xsil. I'm not sure this time if there was a motive behind this call. I think the last one there was, but this time she wanted to tell me about a singer she had heard & knowing I'm in the music biz she wanted to tell me about her.
I found out her husband is going to Thailand to have all the flab taken off, he had lap band surgery & lost over 200 lbs. I did a little snooping on fb to find out this sort of thing. ow commented about him going to see them while he was there, he said if the drs. would let him travel. But, I just think it was awful strange that xsil didn't say a word about him doing that & I know he is leaving this coming weekend. She even mentioned him having some plans & would be out of town, she also mentioned that he was having a little surgery & wouldn't be able to do something with her, but she never told me anything about it & I didn't ask. She hasn't once said anything about the baby either, which I think is strange. Oh well. And, that last picture I got of the baby, it said it was 8 months old, it looks much older than that.
I can't remember if I mentioned this on here or not but the weekend after the flood I went out of town, on that Friday night I got 3 calls, one was at 10pm, 11pm & 11:20pm, the caller ID said unknown. That was very strange to me that I would get calls that late at night, never happens!! No message was left & then the xsil calls a week or so later & I had not heard from her in about a year. Strange!! Just thought that was interesting. I know where ex is there is a 12 hour time difference.
Oh well, I'm sure there is nothing to it. I doubt it was him. Just really thinking out loud.
I don't find the calls strange at all. Why? Because you are not reacting the way that they think you should be. It's either the ow or your xh making the calls. Someone is enjoying bugging the heck out of you. Remember, just like children, if they can't get a reaction one way, they'll try another. If you remain still and quiet, you'll find out who is doing it...it just takes time.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I agree that the best thing is not to respond to her emails, BUT ( that was for you TG) wouldn't it be something to send her a balloon bouquet saying Thanks for taking the worthless SOB off my hands? Just a thought.
I sort of assumed that it could have been ex, b/c of all the flooding here. My xsil would not have thought about me being on a hill without someone mentioning it to her, so that is why I think my ex made those calls & didn't leave a message. Then he had xsil called to find out if I was all right after the flooding.
Of course it could have been ow trying to find out if I got the emails about the baby & when I didn't say anything she wanted to see if she could find out something. Who knows??? I'm not going to play that game!! I'm doing like you suggest & I'm remaining still & quiet, I think eventually I'll hear something.
You just don't know how much I appreciate your advice, you are such an inspiration to all of us on here!!
A lot of us that have kids HAVE to keep in contact with our H's, STBXH's and XH's so that is why I think it is so interesting that your XH's OW and SIL are still keeping tabs on you!
Wondering if Angie send Jen pics of their brood?
If you were closer, I'd have you come and help me in yard...the mosquitoes about carried me away last night so I gave up!
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Yes, that is one thing I don't keep in touch with xh b/c we don't have any kids. I just think it is very strange. I know ow tried to get ex's best friend to hack into my email account last year & he told her he would not do it. Interesting, don't you think!
I know what you mean about mosquitoes! They love me!!! And, they eat me alive when I go out. They didn't bite my ex at all when he was here, but I walk outside & they got me. I guess you can tell who was the sweetest!!
If we were close, I would sure come help you in the yard! That would be fun working with someone instead of doing it by yourself!
