My speech was, basically; I agree with you, this marriage is over. It can't be fixed, we both need to move on.....
She wanted to separate, to have some space. We agreed to taking turns sleeping on the couch. The next night, she said I could sleep in bed with her, she didn't mind. Then, she said,"I don't think this in house thing is going to work. On the nights that I work, I will sleep at my brother's or mom and dad's house. The other nights, you can sleep at such and such's house. What do you think?" I told her I would think about it and let her know.
The next week she was very nice, almost like things were like the old days. About a week after I told her I would think about it, I said, "W, I have thought about what you said and have decided I will not leave the kids even for a night. If you want this, then I will not try to stop you from leaving. Go to your brother's or wherever. I am not going anywhere."
Long story short, she turned quickly back into the a$$ that I had been living with. We have had, I think, two more of these discussions and each time she back down and won't leave. She rarely talks to me and when she does, it's all business.
So, I know what I need to do next. Get a L and file myself. We went to MC one time and she will not go back. I am going back to IC and it does help. I can't quite take the next step. I know NEED to because she seems content to live in limbo. I can't.
Read through my thread if you have the time and try not to repeat my many mistakes. The only thing that works is standing up for yourself. Stand up for what is right for you and your family. You can't go wrong doing that.
