So, how do you suggest I tackle this. Your saying this is just another stage the WAW goes through and it's expected.
Yep -- BINGO. I can predict almost word-for-word what they will say at this point, I've seen it so often. It's similar to -- when you expose -- them saying "Now you've done it! Now you've blown ANY CHANCE you had with me! I WAS thinking of getting back TOGETHER with you, but now YOU'VE BLOWN IT!!"
Blah, blah, blah.
Puppy
Holy crap, my wife said the exact same thing to me when she wanted to separate and I was desperate to get back together. ...Word for Word....
and fwiw, so did my xH. who's now moved on from his first soulmate to another one, after 2 years and the depletion of the brain chemicals that make it "fun" in the beginning. it's script, it's part of the syndrome, it's very predictable, it's part of them being able to blame YOU and take none of the responsibility themselves.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
Been busy at work, just getting caught up. So you let her go and now she is contacting you like crazy?
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
So what now... Do I just stay detached and keep on with GAL...
Is it normal that I don't even know what I want anymore. Have those of you out there experiencing this gone through those emotions. Sometimes I can't even think about moving forward without her but then thoughts of OM help me get past those feelings quickly.
HELP
M: 36 W: 29 S: 2.5 EA: 2/2010 OM1 D Bomb: 3/2010 PA: 6/2010 OM2 W moved out 8/2010 Loc: DE, USA
Is it normal that I don't even know what I want anymore. Have those of you out there experiencing this gone through those emotions.
You are no longer disoriented after the bomb. You have detached, have a different perpsective and she is hurting you still in spite of your efforts - so what you are feeling is normal but very unsettling. Know what your goals are, no expectations and prepare for either outcome.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
So what now... Do I just stay detached and keep on with GAL...
HELP
Originally Posted By: Greek
Duplicity.
FFH, No contact = no contact, even if it's innocent. Plus, she's either lying to him or you. Either way, who are you married to?
My advice is ... tell her to go. Tell her you know that she is still commisserating with OM, that she still wants to leave and you have decided that you agree. She should go. Very calmly hand her the number to the Residence Inn and tell her to go now - it's one thing you both agree on. She can pick the rest of her stuff up when she's found a place.
Then go start dinner for your little guy. Because life goes on. Greek
My W got home with son, they went to a movie. She came in like nothing was wrong and didn't bring up R. We had some nice conversation about son, we just put him to bed. She went to her room and has shut herself in there.
I'm a bit relieved that she isn't bringing it up. I'll just keep doing what I'm doing and hopefully my feelings will sort themselves out.
M: 36 W: 29 S: 2.5 EA: 2/2010 OM1 D Bomb: 3/2010 PA: 6/2010 OM2 W moved out 8/2010 Loc: DE, USA
