FFH, No contact = no contact, even if it's innocent. Plus, she's either lying to him or you. Either way, who are you married to?
My advice is ... tell her to go. Tell her you know that she is still commisserating with OM, that she still wants to leave and you have decided that you agree. She should go. Very calmly hand her the number to the Residence Inn and tell her to go now - it's one thing you both agree on. She can pick the rest of her stuff up when she's found a place.
Then go start dinner for your little guy. Because life goes on. Greek
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