I personally prefer to hold my wife in a spoon position. But I have been outside of the residence for 6 months now, and out of the bedroom for 6 months before that.
Same here, but not 6 months..yet. I feel for you.
Originally Posted By: SunnyD
I guess I wouldn't take it so personally (the rolling over) if there were other signs of affection going on. Right now I just hate the feeling that he wants sex, not that he wants me.
And of course, it makes me wonder if there is OW involved - the lack of affection towards me - if there's an EA going on or worse. (Just started a thread in the infidelity section about that.)
When he rolls over does he imediatly go to bed? I know I would roll over most of the time and fall asleep afterwards. My W would complain that I didn't cuddle her. Its not that I didn't want to spoon, but I am comfortable on my side to fall asleep.It just happens.
Hmmm.. would it be persuing if you try (not saying you don't)to be more sexy? Make him want you, but play hard to get for a while. Let the tensions build to the point he would do anything to get to you.
Of course it shouldn't be all sex in solving the issues.
Yeah - he pretty much just goes to sleep afterwards. I guess that's not so untypical.
I have been making the effort in the sexy department... but I guess I haven't been very hard to get! LOL
And yes, you're right: sex is not the cure. It's once facet though, to trying to guess what the other person is feeling, isn't it? We've made NO progress in other areas - aren't even discussing the R at all.
