Divorcebusting.com  |  Contact      
Previous Thread
Next Thread
Print Thread
Page 9 of 24 1 2 7 8 9 10 11 23 24
Joined: May 2010
Posts: 206
B
Barkley Offline OP
Member
OP Offline
Member
B
Joined: May 2010
Posts: 206
Something to keep hope alive at least


M: 39
W: 39
Kids (3): S10; S8; D4
Married 14 years
Togethor: 18 years
Wife's Weird Behavior Started: 2nd Half of 2009
Bomb Dropped (about being "so done"): 2/17/10
Current Status: In counseling
Joined: May 2010
Posts: 206
B
Barkley Offline OP
Member
OP Offline
Member
B
Joined: May 2010
Posts: 206
I would like to hear thoughts from Greek or Sandi2 regarding a thoughtful course of action?


M: 39
W: 39
Kids (3): S10; S8; D4
Married 14 years
Togethor: 18 years
Wife's Weird Behavior Started: 2nd Half of 2009
Bomb Dropped (about being "so done"): 2/17/10
Current Status: In counseling
Joined: May 2010
Posts: 206
B
Barkley Offline OP
Member
OP Offline
Member
B
Joined: May 2010
Posts: 206
Well so much for the warm and fuzzy feelings. Cranky chick has already returned. I tries to put the moves on last night and got shot down. I ask her a simple question and she snaps at me this morning (sigh). I am starting to just want to say "fu*k it".....I deserve someone that is going to show me love and affection


M: 39
W: 39
Kids (3): S10; S8; D4
Married 14 years
Togethor: 18 years
Wife's Weird Behavior Started: 2nd Half of 2009
Bomb Dropped (about being "so done"): 2/17/10
Current Status: In counseling
Joined: May 2010
Posts: 206
B
Barkley Offline OP
Member
OP Offline
Member
B
Joined: May 2010
Posts: 206
I swear.....I haven't spent this much "recreational time" with myself since I was 16


M: 39
W: 39
Kids (3): S10; S8; D4
Married 14 years
Togethor: 18 years
Wife's Weird Behavior Started: 2nd Half of 2009
Bomb Dropped (about being "so done"): 2/17/10
Current Status: In counseling
Joined: May 2010
Posts: 206
B
Barkley Offline OP
Member
OP Offline
Member
B
Joined: May 2010
Posts: 206
I have an impending sense of doom today.....please go away


M: 39
W: 39
Kids (3): S10; S8; D4
Married 14 years
Togethor: 18 years
Wife's Weird Behavior Started: 2nd Half of 2009
Bomb Dropped (about being "so done"): 2/17/10
Current Status: In counseling
Joined: Apr 2010
Posts: 55
C
Member
Offline
Member
C
Joined: Apr 2010
Posts: 55
How are you doing? Sounds like we are struggling with some same issues. Stay strong. It's hard feeling unappreciated and disrespected. I've lived that way for almost 17 months, today being my 12th anniversary, and not an ounce of kindness from my spouse.

Joined: Apr 2010
Posts: 2,257
D
Member
Offline
Member
D
Joined: Apr 2010
Posts: 2,257
Originally Posted By: almostperfect10
How are you doing? Sounds like we are struggling with some same issues. Stay strong. It's hard feeling unappreciated and disrespected. I've lived that way for almost 17 months, today being my 12th anniversary, and not an ounce of kindness from my spouse.


On not an ounce of kindness, many of us know how it feels. I wish I didn't know. Do things that you like to do.

Joined: May 2010
Posts: 206
B
Barkley Offline OP
Member
OP Offline
Member
B
Joined: May 2010
Posts: 206
Hmmmm.....great Father's Day and good last couple of days. I have a MC session tomorrow. I am hopeful that the wife is feeling better about us.....I will let you guys know


M: 39
W: 39
Kids (3): S10; S8; D4
Married 14 years
Togethor: 18 years
Wife's Weird Behavior Started: 2nd Half of 2009
Bomb Dropped (about being "so done"): 2/17/10
Current Status: In counseling
Joined: May 2010
Posts: 206
B
Barkley Offline OP
Member
OP Offline
Member
B
Joined: May 2010
Posts: 206
BRUTAL MC session. Based on the feedback my wife has received from some of our friends, she feels as though I have tried to turn much of this around on her by chalking this up to a midlife crisis/depression and not taken full responsibility for my actions. She busted out a three page letter basically going over every bad thing I have done since we got married. It wasn't pretty. OUCH! In any event, I get the impression that she needs me to take more responsibility and validate her feelings. Now I am not sure how to proceed....do I try and DB (not working)or do I validate?

Help!


M: 39
W: 39
Kids (3): S10; S8; D4
Married 14 years
Togethor: 18 years
Wife's Weird Behavior Started: 2nd Half of 2009
Bomb Dropped (about being "so done"): 2/17/10
Current Status: In counseling
Joined: Jun 2010
Posts: 65
F
Member
Offline
Member
F
Joined: Jun 2010
Posts: 65
What did your MC say about it when the letter came out?

Page 9 of 24 1 2 7 8 9 10 11 23 24

Moderated by  Cadet, DnJ, job, Michele Weiner-Davis 

Link Copied to Clipboard
Michele Weiner-Davis Training Corp. 1996-2025. All rights reserved.
Powered by UBB.threads™ PHP Forum Software 7.7.5