I think I need to combine validation/freedom with the fact that I don't want him to go. I'm afraid that he follows me too much and if I appear too enthusiastic about his going, then he'll do it partially because he thinks I want him to! He's so crazy. I'm glad you guys understand, though.
So I was thinking of trying to explain a bit about "my" side. I would say that Jan-Feb were a time when I 'died' and many of my friends and family remember that pain. So some will
