That's the confusing part. I guess I see iniating, since he's the one that wanted out and all, as pursuing...which we aren't supposed to do. ???
Yeah, one of the vets could chime in on this. I get confused on when I am supposed to do something when it contradicts another rule.
I know ,when W and I were still together, there were times she would try to initiate sex, but I wasn't in the mood. She would give up easily and be angry that we did not make love. Its not that I really didnt want it(I am a guy and I love my wife, she does turn me on no matter what), but I wanted her to start it, instead of me all of the time. I never communicated it to her, and that is part of my problem where I am at today.
I think communication breakdown is a huge problem with all of these issues we're facing. We try so hard to not fight that needs don't get met on either side. Of course, there's always those that fight endlessly, but for many of us, trying to keep the peace actually got us into this mess!
