Well, Cajun, at least you do see sex as more than just sex - as an expression of love as well. Women (well, at least my friends and I) do see sex as a fulfilling expression of love and not just some duty. I'm sure when you're W wanted it, it was a way of reaching for you. Security? To know you're still there for her? Because she's confused about what she feels and what she wants? All of the above? I wish I could tell you for sure. I can't figure out that one for myself!
In my case, yes, since the bomb, I don't initiate - H does. When he makes the first move though I will say I respond to it fairly readily. I have initiated a few things - like a back rub - but not in a desperate way, just in a trying to be nice way. That doesn't make sense maybe, but I know the difference.
