DLS: That could be, that it's just his comfort zone and he's returning to it... I guess that's been the case a lot over the last few years. I haven't communicated much about it because before these last several times, he was definitely being considerate of my needs. However - with that old "comfort level" maybe he's going back to not considering them. ??? I don't know. I've told him many times how I need the affection - the kissing, etc... to really get into things. He was doing that. Now, he's not again. In fact, even after the bomb I heard ILY several times, but NOTHING close to that these last few weeks. Now I don't even get hugged after work. After the bomb, he would hold me - say ILY - hug me...but maybe that was all out of guilt. Since I've been doing my 180's I get no kind of affection. Yet, there's been no fighting or emotional storms either. In many ways life is more pleasant except now with sex, I don't want to feel used when not even so much as a exchanged hug has occurred first. ??? VERY confusing!
SOrry to hijack your thread, Cajun!
No need to be sorry, it is open to all.
Still didnt see an answer to who starts sex. If it is always H, then maybe you could try something to initiate. I am learning that if something doesn't seem to work...stop and find something that does. It sucks as sometimes you work on one thing, spend all this time on it, then I have to change up things and start over.
Me 31 Wife 34 (Step)D 15 /(Step)S 13 / D 6 Married 3/3/01 Separated 6/4/10 Bomb 6/14/10 Served 6/22/10 EA/PA Discovered 7/5/10 Now Back Together 8/1/10
