DLS: That could be, that it's just his comfort zone and he's returning to it... I guess that's been the case a lot over the last few years. I haven't communicated much about it because before these last several times, he was definitely being considerate of my needs. However - with that old "comfort level" maybe he's going back to not considering them. ??? I don't know. I've told him many times how I need the affection - the kissing, etc... to really get into things. He was doing that. Now, he's not again. In fact, even after the bomb I heard ILY several times, but NOTHING close to that these last few weeks. Now I don't even get hugged after work. After the bomb, he would hold me - say ILY - hug me...but maybe that was all out of guilt. Since I've been doing my 180's I get no kind of affection. Yet, there's been no fighting or emotional storms either. In many ways life is more pleasant except now with sex, I don't want to feel used when not even so much as a exchanged hug has occurred first. ??? VERY confusing!
