I told him I didn't want to talk then since she was around, but he insisted. I should have been stronger about telling him "No, not now", and I will in the future.
Damn straight. Enough with his insisting, controlling. He's insisted on too much for too long and you've been the one paying the price for it.Good.
I suggest taking it sloooow with seeing someone so soon (rebound). And keep your boundaries intact!
Glad your D's seeeing an IC. With confidentially constraints, I wouldn't expect her to give you any heads up/info about D. Advice on how to communicate with her, make transition easier for her, maybe, but possibly not even that. Perhaps D would be open to IC suggesting, "How about we get your Mom in here for one session?"
(((Hugs)))
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
