oh, and btw, don't believe any of this for a second (unless, of course, you really ARE being rude or a dikk to her). A woman will test a man, and when he caves with "Whatever you want to do, is fine with me, dear," she loses all respect for him.
Conversely, if you are standing up to your wife, and FOR yourself, for the first time, yes, she will b*tch and holler and scream, but if you DO it right . . . she will find it attractive, she will respect you, and -- since women tie their feelings of LOVE very closely with their feelings of RESPECT -- her love for you will GROW. Puppy
No, this was all via TM and even when I've confronted her in person I have remained calm, cool, and collected. I did blow up once last month but that was the only time I've blown up during her whole EA.
This really is the first time during our whole relationship that I've stood up for myself without later apologizing to her and basically groveling. So I think that is why she is reacting the way she is.
I've remained calm and consistent when I've told WW that her affair is tearing this family apart and that I'm trying to save our family.
No, I haven't been rude, insulting, or a dikk in general through this whole ordeal.
M-43 FWW-42 T 20 M 16 DD10 DD8 EA: 1/10 Informal separation: 6/11/2010 Headed for D: 7/6/2010 Piecing? 9/10/10
