...The thing is, the WAW's reactions have gotten progressively WORSE and MORE violent as time has gone on from the beginning of May when this all started. Validation, not disagreeing with even the most skewed of her claims, compassion, empathy, etc. NONE of them have worked in the way so many books and articles suggest they would.
I really am at a loss.................
A lot of those authors haven't dealt with these issues first hand, a lot of them think applying "logic" to these situations should produce logical results. We're dealing with emotions, not logic, the two are different, they require different approaches - still seems to me like you're kissing her a$$ too much and she is angry at you, no worries about that, why couldn't you have been "Mr.Perfect" before all this started? And I'll tell you why.... because no one is perfect. She has extremely high expectations and zero respect for you, she will get you to jump through every hoop and she may even derive some twisted sense of satisfaction of making you work hard and maybe even thinking to herself, "I enjoy watching him suffer, he thinks he can be all perfect now but you wait and see because I will continue rejecting him and disrespecting him until his spirit is broken too..."
I can't say with 100% certainty that she is thinking this way but your wife is angry and depressed and frustrated and she doesn't know what to do, none of her available choices are good, it's like saying which pile of crap do you want, the one on the right or the one on the left?
You won't get to the finish line that you're hoping for by continuing to kiss her a$$, I can guarantee you that.
