Ok, so I need some advice. I just got an email from my W saying the following: I'm curious how I should respond to this.
W email to me......
"S . . .I want you to know that I am not dating or sleeping with anyone. I do talk to people and I know you are not comfortable with that. . . "
Just so that we're impeccably clear here, FFH, I wanted to circle back on this, and maybe help you understand some moral clarity here:
If your wife would be ok with her husband seeing (or hearing) ALL of her 'talking' with her male friend, then its content is appropriate. ANYTHING SHE SAYS TO HIM SHOULD BE ABLE TO BE SAID IN YOUR PRESENCE.
If, however, she would NOT be comfortable with it -- either because it's sexual, or just flirtatious, or if it's intimate details about the problems in your marital relationship -- then it is AN EMOTIONAL AFFAIR.
For a MUCH better, more thorough explanation of all of this, I'd strongly suggest you read Shirley Glass's excellent book, "NOT Just Friends." It is the definitive work on emotional affairs, and their destructive effects.
