She has a lot to think about and that I'm showing her no reason to want to be with me when I behave this way.
I am showing her an ugly side of me, one that she doesn't want anything to do with.
I am making it hard for her to like me.
oh, and btw, don't believe any of this for a second (unless, of course, you really ARE being rude or a dikk to her). A woman will test a man, and when he caves with "Whatever you want to do, is fine with me, dear," she loses all respect for him.
Conversely, if you are standing up to your wife, and FOR yourself, for the first time, yes, she will b*tch and holler and scream, but if you DO it right . . . she will find it attractive, she will respect you, and -- since women tie their feelings of LOVE very closely with their feelings of RESPECT -- her love for you will GROW.
Don't measure what's working by what she SAYS, L51. Measure it by what she DOES -- over time.
