She has a lot to think about and that I'm showing her no reason to want to be with me when I behave this way.
I am showing her an ugly side of me, one that she doesn't want anything to do with.
I am making it hard for her to like me.
A: "I'm really sorry you feel that way. That's certainly not my intent - to be ugly."
And then make a note to yourself to make sure she either witnesses you, or hears about you, dealing very positively (even charming) with other people, in other situations.
L51, the trick to "loving detachment" is to get BOTH halves of that equation correctly. Be strong, without being a dikk.
