He's stuck halfway between "Infidelity" strategy & tactics, and MLC ones. Two VERY different approaches.
I think Opti needs to decide which is the best STRATEGY to use, for maximum chance of success, as that will of course dictate his TACTICS.
I'm simplifying, but this forum treats affairs as a primary obstacle to be BUSTED, as fast as possible, so the real work of reconciliation can then begin. The MLC forum treats the infidelity as but a symptom of the broader problem, which is really a psychological disorder (Mid-Life Crisis), which must be endured (albeit with boundaries, and coping mechanisms) for a long, long time.
