Puppy, Coach...advice..anyone...Need a quick answe

[ninelives]

Swimming:

Just chimming in again because I feel the same anxiety that you do and my w is not in an affair that I know of. But you have to ask yourself, What am I hanging on to? You are letting him play you for a patsy right now and as Greek says, have cake crumbs from both of you. Are you hanging on to your old relationship which you say was very good but the KEY word here is WAS very good. You said yourself " He is not the same man you married"

Maybe he will go to her and the thought of that scares the crap out of you but then he can see for himself if he is making the right choice. Often when the excitement of forbidden fruit wears off, the luster is also gone and what is left for him.
A women he cheated with that is obviously lacking any moral fibre. How long can he stay attracted to that.

Then you have to make a decison as you are GAL. Would you accept him back? You can't answer that now because you don't know how you will be feeling but one thing is for sure. You can't continue in this way. It is killing you.

Letting go will also be very tough but at least you can get on with your life and maintain the self respect that you deserve.

On an other note; I hope you don't mind if I ask Greek and coach a question on your thread.

Coach: how did you treat Greek when you were apart? My w wants us to be friends and date down the road? Do you think that is a good idea? I am afraid like swimming here , that if I let her go, she may find someone else. If that was to happen , unlike swimming, I don't think I would hang on.

Good luck Swimming.