It is good advice. I have told her many times that she has nothing to fear from me and my actions have shown that. I have said to her on numerous occasions that whatever physical/sexual activity we are in, she always has the control over when we stop and any request of hers to stop or slow down or anything else will always be complied with and I will never, in any way, punish her for stopping. The problem we are having now is just getting her to start the exercises to relearn physical intimacy and sexuality in a healthy way. I am willing to start anywhere. I just need to know that we are starting. What I want to say is that we should set aside some time (an hour or so) everyday to work on this and make it a priority. Some time where we can touch with no expectation except that we will be touching in a safe way for her. I have a pretty good idea how she will react to this. Can you think of a way I can present it that she will be able to hear and not become afraid?
